Let’s Talk: Modesty



Oh my, here we go again. It’s the age old debate about modesty. But hey, don’t you worry; I’m gonna clear some things up for you! This post is complied of answers from a few questions that I was asked and I decided that this was the best way to answer them, and also, who honestly wants to read a bunch of Q&A’s? (Okay maybe me but that’s not the point) I thought that it’d be best for me to list the questions that I was asked so you would have a better understanding of what I am going to be talking about. And also you can think about what answers you would have and whether or not you agree with me.

01. What does the word modesty mean to you?
02. How does modesty wrap into a faith with Jesus?
03. Why is modesty so important?
04. In your opinion is it immodest to wear pants/shorts/tank tops/anything above the knee?
05. What are some of your personal favorite verses on modesty?
06. How can someone dress modestly?
07. What are some fashion/modesty tips?
08. How about the tomboys out there-do they have to wear skirts?
09. Is modesty just about the clothes?
10. What do you do about swimsuits?
Modesty is a word that is thrown around in today’s world. Opinions on the controversial subject range from one extreme to the other extreme and just about everything in between. However, most fail to realize what modesty truly is. Modesty is just simply conducting oneself in an appropriate manner, in every place and at every time.

Modesty isn’t just talked about in the Christian community, but rather all over the world. However there is a difference when it comes to us believers and unfortunately it’s often in a negative and condescending light. We all know of the believers that utter things along the lines of;
“Pants are immodest and completely sinful.”
“We should be covering ourselves for the glory of God”
The problem that these believers have is that they forget that Jesus is supposed to be the center of their lives and not modesty, however if you are truly following Christ then modesty comes naturally. Remember modesty is just conducting oneself in an appropriate manner, in every place and at every time. When living for God, it starts off as a choice then it turns into a lifestyle.

Modesty is so very important for everyone, men and women alike. That’s another thing that so many people forget about, that modesty is for everyone, everywhere, all the time. But why is it so important you ask. It’s simply important because the people that we look up to, role models, parents, peers, celebrities, all of these people should be modest, both in their clothing and the way that they act. Someone who is modest is most often (if not all the time) looked up to as a person who is mature and trust-worthy; they have the utmost respect.

Another subject that is so controversial in this debate is which clothes are immodest? I am going to flat out say that none of them are. Please understand that one piece of clothing on one person will look different on another. I know that another heavy and heated discussion is pants vs. skirts. We all need to remember that each person will have a personal conviction about which is modest and immodest. We all know of the Duggars, the family with 19 children. Their choice is skirts (and etc) but they have said that as a family that is what their preference and they do not judge other opinions. Swimsuits are another big conversation, and it’s a tough one. Like what I said before, it’s a personal conviction. With all that said I don’t think we should have boobs or butts hanging out, those are private body parts. But again, that is my opinion.

Modesty is also talked about in the Bible and my favorite verse(s) would have to be Proverbs 31, this woman is astounding and knew what her calling in life was and did it with gusto. We all know the verse in second Timothy and many are critical of it. They just simply misinterpret what Timothy is conveying. All that was meant was not to let things get in the way of serving the Lord, and that applies to everything, not just modesty.

“How can I dress modestly?” Now that is a question that you must answer for yourself. You must decide what you feel you are comfortable in. God will guide you so have an open mind and an open heart and you will find out what is best for you. I’m not going to leave you hanging though; I have some fashion tips for you! If you feel that a shirt is too low you can easily put a camisole underneath it. If your pants/jeans/shorts are hugging your bum, just wear a longer shirt. To be honest, it’s very much in style to have a longer sweater/shirt with pants. Being modest and fashionable has never been easier as it is now.

So we have talked a lot about clothing, but modesty is so much more than that. Modesty is also acting in a right and mature way! I have known people who wore long skirts, long sleeved shirts and no jewelry other than a purity ring and they acted like a slʉt. I am not going to use less harsh words. They acted in a disgusting way and yet they called themselves modest. And that my friend is why modesty is totally more than the clothes. Your behavior is so very important and as Christians we have a bigger example to set for the people around us. In the book of Titus it says; “Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored” (Titus 2:3-5) It is plain to us that we have a calling to be an example to others. (Also in Titus there is a calling to older men to be an example.)

I feel like I could talk forever on this topic but I feel like my point is made; Modesty is more than clothes and we have a calling to be upstanding role models for the generations to come. If you have any questions you can comment them down below!